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June 4, 2005
Ungrateful
I hate it when a gift is given, and there's no thanks in return. I recently gave a gift to someone that I believed to be a friend. It wasn't like it was big expensive gift...but it was a gift none the less. Sort of like a random act of kindness type deal. Not only has the person not thanked me for the gift, which I gave out of pure thoughtfulness...BUT she hasn't even attempted to call me either. That ticks me off. I understand that my gift was to be a "random act" but still she could at least say, "Thanks. I appreciate it." That's just the appropriate thing to do.
What makes me even more upset is that this isn't the first time that a gift was given to her without a "Thank You" in response. Another friend & myself helped to pay her rent when she was in a bad financial situation. We didn't get a thank you then. On another occassion, a guy that we know drove her to her sister's house in Baltimore and she didn't even say thanks nor did she offer him any resemblance of gas money. That's pretty f'd up if you ask me. He didn't have to take her.
Perhaps, I should've learned my lesson from past experiences with her ungratefulness. Sue me for having a compassionate heart. I decided to give the "random act of kindness" this time because she's experiencing a little hardship. She confided in me & another friend a few weeks ago that she was "succumbing to the pressures of life." She gave us this entire spew about how everything is dragging her down. She wants to do right, but she cant. I know how difficult things can be sometimes, so I felt for her. We prayed with her, and told her to call if she needed anything. She called me daily. I tried to encourage her. I pointed to my present situation with my health issues. I told her that she can make it. She seemed encouraged.
I gave her the gift...and I haven't recieved a call in two weeks. At first I was like, "She's just going through something."...Now Im like, THIS [CHICK] IS ONE UNGRATEFUL HEFFER!...HOW MANY [FRIGGIN] TIMES WILL BE BOO BOO THE FOOL! I decided to call her this afternoon. When her voicemail came on, I was tempted to let it rip, but I simply asked her to return my call. When she calls me back...if that heffer calls me back...I'm going to give her the truth in love. She's running a sheisty game, and one day she's going to pay for it.
I don't want a gift in return. Hell...I haven't even asked her for the money that I gave her to pay her rent. I don't want any elaborate recognition. I just want a simple "Thank You". Let me know that you appreciate the kindness that others extend. It's only right to do so.
Posted by Timi at June 4, 2005 9:09 PM
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friends aint shit, im going threw a similar situation with one of my friends.
You cuss too friggin much girl. lol ~Timi
Posted by: Ty at June 5, 2005 5:38 PM
That is some shady friend of yours!!! I can't believe the nerve of some people! I would never treat a friend the way she's done you! MAN... You got me all heated, thinking about some so called "friends" that I've had in the past!!! She's lucky to have you, but I think you've learned your lesson as far as she's concerned!
Posted by: Coley at June 5, 2005 8:03 PM
timi, you're UG-LEEE when you're irritated.
totally understand your frustration, though. but there just comes a point when ya give 'em up to God and let him deal with 'em. at this point, though, you need to love her without letting her run you over. no more stuff, no more money, no more favors. she's just plain mean and ungrateful.
still, i think we need to be there for these people, even as we struggle to even think about them as people (as you may know by now, i'm talking more to myself than you here. not the same as advice. just truth trying to live its way through our hard hearts and through a wicked world detesting its presence. 'and the light lived in the world and the darkness did not comprehend it, or overcome it.')
Posted by: Jason Dye at June 6, 2005 3:35 PM
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